French Kids and Food

French Kids and Food

What food rules do you follow? Not long ago, my daughter gave me French Kids Eat Everything, by Karen Le Billon, 2012. The book brought back
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Getting Too Hungry

How often do you get extremely hungry? During most restrictive diets I’ve been on, I allowed myself—while believing it was what I had to do—to go through days and nights and weeks of hunger. My stomach growled constantly, and
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On Intuitive Eating

The following post came from an entry in my personal journal dated April 3, 2009, the day after I gave up dieting.
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Fat Talk

Last week when I had dinner with my twenty-nine year-old niece and her friend, we compared notes about the “fat talk” phenomena that continues to pop up despite increased awareness of how it belittles us.

“You look great! Have you lost weight?”
My thoughts: If I look great now, how did I look before?

“She’d be so pretty if she could just slim down.”
My thoughts: Everyone has a right to express their opinion, but is her size the most important thing to you?

“Is that on your diet?”
My thoughts: Who say’s I’m on a diet? Isn’t my body okay the way it is?

“You’re not having seconds, are you?”
My thoughts: Ouch! You’re assuming that you know how hungry I am, that you’re in a better position than me to determine how much to eat, and that you have the right to make that decision for me.

While others may indulge in Fat Talk, most of the time we who have food issues are the ones who are berate ourselves the most. In the book, Goodbye Ed, Hello Me, author Jenni Schaefer* reveals how she responded effectively to remarks that arose from her Eating Disorder, which she called, “Ed.”

Here’s some of the Before dialogue that went on in my head (and still dominates at times) and the New responses I’m trying to learn.

Ed: Norma, you look so fat in that sundress!
Norma: You’re right—I’ll get rid of it.
Norma New: But I like the vibrant colors and swirly skirt. Don’t I have a right to wear something feminine?

Ed: You’re never going to be thin!
Norma: You wanna bet? I can lose 20 pounds before the reunion if I put my mind to it. After all, I’ve done it before. I’ll start tomorrow morning, after I’ve had one last chance to eat my favorite things today.
Norma New: You may be right, Ed, but it’s more important to aim for a healthy body than to obsess about my weight.

Ed: You’ll never get everything done in time. You might as well eat the rest of the brownies you baked yesterday.
Norma: I do need a break, and they are good, aren’t they?
Norma New: How do you know what I’ll get done today, Ed? It’s true I used to eat when I was stressed, but I don’t have to do what you say. I may have a brownie, or not. I’m not hungry right now—I’ll see how I feel later.

Ed: You know you can’t drive past that restaurant without stopping. It’s your favorite and you don’t get that many chances to eat there.
Norma: You’re right. My mouth is watering already.
Norma New: Yes, I can. I don’t have to eat what you dictate, Ed!

As you can see, although I have still have a lot to learn about combating Fat Talk, it’s kind of fun to come up with new responses.

Stuffed to the Gills

They say confession is good for the soul.  Okay, so I was a human vacuum cleaner for the left-over holiday chocolate around the house.  This time, however, I was aware of what was going on, thinking such profundities as, “I’m not hungry, but I really want to eat this!”  Another observation was that I ate a lot of it on my feet, a rarity for me because I like to relax when I eat anything at all.  For some reason, I just stood in the kitchen unwrapping those little truffles that are dreamy creamy inside. 

The result of all this was that I ended the day feeling uncomfortable physically, which I hate because it takes a few hours for the fulness to abate.   Dr. Michelle May suggests in Eat What You Love, Love What You Eat that we aim to make ourselves feel better instead of worse when we’re done eating.  I think she’s on to something.

New Year’s Resolutions

Hello Fellow Non-Dieters or About-to-Become-Non-Dieters,

Due to a writing project about, of all things, Not Dieting, I’ve been remiss in posting to this blog. I couldn’t let the opportunity go by, however, to post my New Year’s resolutions on this, the very first day of 2011. So here goes.

Resolution #1. Eat mindfully. I want to think about what I’m eating at the time I’m eating it and not after it’s gone.

Resolution #2. Enjoy food to the max. The best way I know is to be hungry before eating, choose something I like, and savor the flavor.

Truth be told, I’m still trying to get the hang of assessing my hunger and fullness.  Two books are helping I think.  One is Eat What You Love, Love What You Eat, by Michelle May, M.D., and the other is the Appetite Awareness Workbook, by Linda W. Craighead.

During the holidays, I enjoyed traditional foods and desserts and chocolates without guilt or overeating (much).  Tonight I was in the mood for the cold crunch of an apple, some carrots, and crackers and cheese followed by a milk chocolate truffle.  Perfect supper.

As I’ve been knitting and watching TV bit more than usual, the ads for diets have cracked me up.  Still can’t believe the change in my perspective.  Not that I have all the answers, but it’s like, “been there, done that” and no more!  Life is so much more fun when not tied to a ball-and-chain, er, a diet.

Happy New Year!